Each person living with dementia has their own personal struggles that they go through. Often times, the struggles are unpredictable. I have always tried not to worry, but to live life on life's terms. That is not always easy though. Within days of receiving my diagnosis, I began thinking about the impact that my disease might have on my family. Likely, one might think about what will my journey be like and how long will I live. What will the end be like?
There are the ever present financial concerns because of the enormous cost of dementia care. For many, there are the financial burdens of paying rent, utilities and food. Legal concerns must be addressed. There is much more that I could include, but I will stop with these. Often times, these issues and others are enough to cause someone to become depressed.
I subscribe to the quote above. I feel there is a difference between being concerned about something and worrying about something. I feel that it is essential to accept life on life's terms in order to maintain health and happiness. This is not always easy. As I was praying one night, soon after my diagnosis, I told God that I could not carry all of the burdens that are implicated with a diagnosis of dementia. I knew that it would drag me down and I would become depressed. It took a lot of prayer for me to let go; but, it worked.
Fortunately, I have been able to reach a point of not really worrying about anything; however, I remain concerned about what my family might have to endure. Mostly, I have peace about what might lie ahead. Whenever the difficulties occur, I will attempt to hit them "head on" and keep forging ahead. I am not quitter.
Blessings to everyone.
©2015 Robert Bowles
Robert Bowles, Jr.